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Monday, December 5, 2011
Calm that Anger Down; Feelings 3
What to do About Anger
It is good to learn how to calm ourselves down
when we are angry. Nothing good will
come of getting in trouble because we are acting out. Teach and practice what triggers anger, how our body reacts, and how to calm down. You may want to review Feeling Words, and The Face Moves.
Triggers What makes you angry, that you react to every time it happens? This is called, anger triggers. What are your anger triggers; brainstorm a list.
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
1 is calm, and 10 is the absolute angriest. Ask: If someone took your cookie without
asking, how angry would it make you; pick a number (Odds are a child will pick
a fairly high number). Ask: What if
someone pushed you down on the ground, how angry would you be then; pick a
number. Obviously, someone pushing you
down is going to make a person angrier than taking some cookies.
Decide from 1 to 10 how calm or angry these situations would make you. If you choose too high or too low the first
time, erase and change the number.
1. You are given a compliment.
2. You are teased and called a name.
3. Your turn was accidentally skipped.
4. Someone takes your cookie.
5. You are pushed on purpose.
6. You are told you did a good job.
7. You knock over all of your books.
Brainstorm ways we feel and what our body does
when we get angry. Practice what it feels
like to clinch teeth, clinch fists, and tighten stomach muscles.
1. Face can get hot
2. Teeth may clinch
3. Fists may clinch
4. Heart pounds
5. Stomach feels butterflies or the muscles feel
practice the ways to calm down.
1. Slowly count to
10 over and over. While you are
counting, you are inhaling in very slowly, and then exhaling just as slow. Continue counting and breathing slowly until
you feel calm.
2. Count backwards. For younger children teach them to start at
10 and count backwards. Continue over
and over if needed. Older children start
at the highest number they are able to count backwards from. Continue to count backwards until you become
3. Think about something that makes you happy
such as playing with your dog, jumping waves at the beach, sitting by a lake. When you are upset, think about your happy
place. You may need to remind yourself
to think about your happy place if your mind wonders. Stay with your happy place until you are no
4. Tell yourself, “Calm down, I don’t want to get
in trouble; calm down, I don’t want to get in trouble…” Continue saying the sentence over and over, until
your anger has gone down. Tell yourself, "Calm down-I don’t want to get in
5. Write out why you are angry on a piece of
paper. Write everything you feel you
need to say, get it all out. After you
are done, crumple the paper up and throw away the angry feelings. Or, rip the paper up in small pieces and
throw the angry feelings away.
6. Blow up a balloon, say why you are angry out
loud or to yourself, let the balloon go and as you let the balloon go, let your
anger go with it.