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Saturday, June 30, 2012

Teasing & Strategies; Bully 5

(Scroll down and practice the strategies to handle teasing)
Children tease because someone is different and they do not understand those differences.  Some tease because they enjoy doing so and they in return get attention.  Others tease because they like to hurt, especially if they can get the response they are looking for.  Sometimes the teaser has been teased themselves, have low self esteem, or are just ignorant to the hurt they are causing.  In a classroom, role play is a good tool to promote understanding.

Teasing can happen anywhere, in your neighborhood, on a school bus, in the classroom and during recess.  Unfortunately, it is difficult to prevent despite the best efforts of parents and teachers.  Teaching children useful strategies will help them to deal with being teased.  Anytime the teasing is persistent, the child needs to seek help from their parent or teacher.

(Practicing strategies will help a child implement them when needed.  To practice, parent or teacher plays the negative role and children use a strategy in response.  You can use the same scenario for each strategy).

Suggested Stories:
The Meanest Thing To Say, by Bill Cosby; Younger
Children love books about Little Bill.  Little Bill is taught a game where the person who says the meanest thing, wins.  His Dad teaches him strategy, that helps Little Bill to save face, and remain the nice kid he really is.

Stick Up for Yourself: Every Kids Guide to Personal Power & Self Esteem, by Kaufman; Older
An ultimate resource for children who have ever been picked on, or blamed for things they didn't do.  It gives real life examples and includes strategies.

Hot Issues Cool Choices , by Sandra Mcleod Humphrey; Parents and Teachers
A book that will help to empower parents and teachers to help children with the challenges 
of being bullied and peer pressure.

Saturday, June 23, 2012

Charade Interview & Good Friendship Qualities; Friendship/Social Skills 5

What qualities do you look for in a friend?  Someone who is kind, shares, considerate, a person you can trust, and someone who has similar interests.  What qualities cause you not to be around someone?  Someone who teases, puts down people, lies, doesn't share, poor hygiene, or talks behind your back.  What kind of friend do you want, and what kind of friend are you?   

Charade Interview
Getting to know someone takes communication skills and finding out about the person.  Pair up, and have the first child act out three things that he or she likes to the other child, with absolutely no talking.  Once the three things have been guessed, the children trade places and the other child acts out three things. 

Good Friendship Qualities and Improvements
What qualities do you have that show you are a good friend?  What are the qualities you think you can improve on to be a good friend?  Print out copies and write out these qualities on, Good Friend Because...

Saturday, June 16, 2012

Tolerance; Character Education 5

Voltaire: All men are equal; it is not birth but virtue alone that makes the difference. 
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.: The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.  I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up, live out the true meaning of its creed:  we hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal.

Every person is special and unique in their own right.  Tolerance is accepting that every person is different, and giving each person room to do their own thing.  Tolerance is understanding and respecting that people have different cultures and are different nationalities.  And, because we come from different cultures, we have a variety of different skin, hair and eye color.  Treating all people with respect and understanding our differences makes the world far more interesting.  Our world is filled with people who have different talents, gifts and skills that we bestow on each other. 

How Would You Feel
Imagine you are in school in California and a new student arrived from the South.  The teacher introduces the new student to the class and asks him to tell the class a little bit about himself.  When the boy begins to speak, the children laughed because of the boy’s Southern accent.  Put yourself in this boys place.  How would you feel if the same thing happened, to you?  What if you moved to the South and started a new school and your teacher asks you to tell something about yourself to the class.  What if the children laughed at you when you talked, because you do not talk like they do.  How would you feel?

Activity: The Salad
America is called a melting pot referring to how many different cultures we have living in America.  Show an example of a melting pot by making a tossed salad in front of your children.  First just add the lettuce; by itself the lettuce is boring.  Now one at a time, add the different vegetables and then toss the salad together.  By adding the vegetables to the lettuce you have ingredients that have their own identity, while making the salad better as a whole with different colors and shapes.  Try to use vegetables with a variety of color.  Remind students that it doesn’t matter if they like the taste of the vegetables, in order to understand the concept.

More Activities
1. Compliment day.  Have children practice giving compliments.  Make a list of compliments to choose from in case children need help.  Make sure every child receives a compliment.

2. In character education, tolerance means acceptance.  Discuss the difference in tolerating and accepting.  (Accepting means not to pre-judge on appearance or customs that are strange to us).  There are situations no one should tolerate such as lying, stealing, or abuse.  In this case find a trusted adult to talk to.

3. Brainstorm a list of foods that originated from other countries.

4. We may look different from each other, but otherwise people all over the world are alike.  Brainstorm all of the ways people are alike.  (Food, shelter, clothing, need to feel loved, need air to stay alive, grow old...).

5. Stereotypes; Representations that are not accurate, or, an oversimplified standardized image of a person or group.  Make a list of stereotypes such as, all Italians can sing, all girls are not good at math.

Story Suggestions:
Paul and Sebastian, by Rene Escudi and Ulises Wensell; Younger
Paul’s and Sebastian’s mothers won’t let them play together because they live in different types of homes; one lives in an apartment and the other in a trailer.  One day the boys get lost.  The boy’s moms learn a lesson in what is important.

Daughter of Sunshine, by Carol Kline; Older   Chicken Soup for the Soul
Daughter of Sunshine is a true story about a boy falling into the gorilla area at a zoo.  A gorilla, Binti Jua, shows compassion to the boy, helps place him where keepers can reach him, and did not care that the boy was of a different species.  We all can learn from Binti Jua.

Saturday, June 9, 2012

I'm A Star & Positive from A to Z; Self Esteem 5

Self Esteem
With a healthy self esteem, children/adolescents experience less anxiety and avoid critiacle thoughts about themselves.  Children with self esteem handle negative situations and influences eaiser.  Positive attitudes and a good sense of self perception, are tools to help our children grow in a emotionally healthy manner.  

Art; I'm a Star
Scroll to the bottom of this post and make a copy the star in two different sizes and colors.  Cut stars out and glue the smaller star on top of the larger star.  Write your name or I'm A Star, in the center of the smaller star and add five words or sentences that describe your awesomeness on the sides (arms), of the star.  Example: Loves family, kind, caring, loves animals, patient, passionate, respectful, trustworthy, responsible...  Decorate with beads, buttons, sequins, or glitter.

Positive From A to Z
Think of words that describe you, your interests, what you enjoy.  Tell who you are with one word or a sentence.  The word or your sentence uses the corresponding letter of the alphabet.  Example: for letter A. Awesome, for letter S. Soccer is my favorite sport.

Happy to Be Me!; A Kid Book about Self-Esteem, by Robert J Butch; Younger

This book lets children know how loved and cherished they are, because of who they are.  Elfin friends take the children through self discovery and exploring uniqueness. The story also helps to build a healthy self image and preparing for challenging situations.  

Showing Up, by Julie J Vaughn; Older   
Chicken Soup for the Kid's Soul
Tyler was not the best basketball player on the team, but he enjoyed the game.  His attitude and work ethic shows his self esteem.  

Saturday, June 2, 2012

Feelings Booklet; Feelings 7

Time Out Not Act Out
Accept your feelings and say to yourself, “I feel frightened.”  I feel angry.”  I feel embarrassed.”  Take a time out, before you act out!  Relax and take deep, slow breaths.  Think of ways to help yourself in a smart way.  Talk to someone if it helps, write it out, or do something you enjoy. 
Feelings Booklet
Print out feeling booklet.  Stack and fold pages in two like a book and decorate the front cover.  Write sentences about the feeling word, tell about a time you have felt that way, and/or draw a picture that represents the feeling.