Saturday, January 19, 2013
Retaliation, Think About it & Solving a Problem; Conflict Resolution 6
Most children feel that if they have been wronged, even if it was unintentional, that they need to do something back in return. Retaliation usually start fights that can become nasty and even violent. Children need to learn the pointlessness and consequences of retaliating. Some wrong doing is by accident, and wrong doing that is on purpose needs to be handled without retaliation.
Bobby came over to Michael’s house and brought his Hot Wheel cars for them to play with. Bobby loves his Hot Wheels more than any toy he has. Michael accidentally lost one of Bobby’s cars, and they start arguing about it. Michael apologizes to Bobby saying that he didn’t mean to lose the car. Bobby became angry and left Michael’s house and went home. Bobby’s mother said that Michael did not need to replace the lost car, since Bobby was not supposed to take the Hot Wheel cars out of their house, in the first place.
A few weeks later an argument between Michael and Bobby broke out at school, when Michael’s art work was stuffed in the trash. Bobby took a picture Michael had made in art and threw it away; he didn’t think Michael would see him, but he did. Michael said he would never play with Bobby again!
Think About It:
1. Why did Bobby throw Michael’s art work away?
2. Was it retaliation?
3. Should Bobby have thrown Michael’s art work away, since Marcus lost his cars?
4. How do you think Bobbie felt when Michael caught him throwing the art work away?
Solving a Problem:
Go over, Solving A Problem, worksheet. Practice saying it out loud, and coming up with solutions, and asking yourself if the solution will work. Use the worksheet as a guide, and have some children solve the problems below.
1. A child taped a sign on your back that said loser.
2. You receive a low grade on your report card and are upset.
3. A student pushed in front of you in the lunch line at school.
4. Your friend accidentally lost a book they borrowed from you.